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What is a life of meaning and purpose? I didn’t think so hard about such questions when I was young. I had a plan for my life since I was four years old, and I pretty much stuck to it. But almost half a century later, I look both forward and backward and wonder about the purpose of my life now.
It was easy to know even five years ago – I was a wife, a mother, and a high school teacher. I’ve been a wife for over 26 years and I still see a great part of my purpose to be walking through life’s valleys and peaks with my husband. But what about the mother and teacher? I still see Jillian as my baby, my heart, my angelfish, but she is a grown woman. And I haven’t been a teacher for four years now.
My Traveling Socks would say that I my most recent purpose was to experience the greater world – the other.
But I’m talking about now.
I’m sitting here with my laptop writing this blog post. Is writing my purpose? And if so, is it meaningful?
Fortunately, I was able to attend a workshop in New Orleans sponsored by the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators. Donna Jo Napoli, author of dozens of young audience novels, conducted a workshop on character and voice – and I greatly appreciated a professional’s advice on the writing process. It’s hard to pinpoint how I write. I just do it without thinking, and as a speaker for schools and libraries, I have been forced to evaluate my process. Donna Jo helped me tremendously in this regard.
She was a lovely, witty, funny woman, giving just the right dose of “’at-a-girl” and “get to work.” Ah, but she offered so much more than ideas on writing – she validated my existence as a writer. Even with a published novel under my belt, I still doubt my credentials as a writer, but here was a bona fide writer reading my latest draft, telling me that she cared about my character, that she wanted to read more, and that “there’s a lot of good stuff in there.” Wow. I was astounded.
Is mine a life of meaning and purpose? I still hadn’t figured that out yet, in spite of recent revelations. Then today I read a tweet by New Orleans writer and anchorwoman Sally-Ann Roberts. It said, “You are like a tree planted by the water. Your leaf shall never wither and you will prosper in all you do. Psalm 1:3.”
Sometimes all it takes is someone else’s words to give meaning to our life. That’s why I’m a writer.
Thanks for pointing toward this blog, Stacy. I think my “idea” of my purpose has kept changing over the years. It’s closer to “being” right now, but not a being that precludes doing. It’s as if the doing flows more easily when I’m centered in being. However, I am NOT always centered in being, Ms. Stacy, and on those days the mind still often wants to find a purpose.
Yes, I see. I don’t really believe in “purpose” in the doing sense, even though when I wrote that post, I was still searching for the “doing” part of purpose. I like the way you put it – being is the center. That’s what I’m focusing on now. xo
How good that you were able to learn and grow from that encounter. I think we’re put here to help one another and to enjoy the wonders of this crazy world, including our own talents, whatever they may be!
I think so, Christine. Helping one another certainly contributes to the wonder of life. ❤
Yes, Ma’am. All that you said rings true to me. Thank you for expressing them so well.
Thank you for the kind words. ❤
You’re welcome, and thank you for the kind words. ❤
. It is difficult to go through transitions in life, to take on new roles and purpose. You are now in a different phase of life, no longer needed as caregiver and Mother, now you are entering the ‘wise woman’ period of life. Gathering all that you know and all of your experiences to form a personal philosophy of life as you know it. What is this philosophy? How can you share it with the world? How can you translate what you learned to share with others? These questions give your life meaning and purpose. You have a story to tell, a lifetime of experience. This is your purpose and gift to the world. I wish you blessings in your quest. xx
Very insightful, Karen. I like the way you put it – makes perfect sense. ❤
I would say that doing something you love, and sharing it with people you love is purpose enough.
And it sounds like you have that in spades.
Stacy smiles because Guap always makes her feel better. ❤
El Guapo smiles Stacy is smiling, and because conversations in the third person amuse the heck out of him.
Yes, they’re so much better than stupid emoticons, no?
Oh, Stacy, so many times you put into words my feelings, even some I didn’t know we’re there. Meaning and purpose are, or should be, ever developing in our lives as different challenges and moods come. May my meaning and purpose continent to evolve!
MIne, too! As for your purpose, you have made an indelible and positive mark on my life. ❤
Dearest Stacy,
According to my latest post about TRUE Presence on the WEB, you certainly did leave a BIG fingerprint with 2,270 results for site: search. Wow, that gives you a very clear insight and you definitely are a great writer. Very in-depth and soul searching you manage to bare your soul. Not many people do possess such gift for being able to verbally express themselves. You also have soaked up such a treasure of impressions abroad and with your hunger for history that will feed your writer’s mind till you’re over a century old. Just wondering if we still might be blogging than?
But it also does keep the mind flexible and young. Did you read Viktor Frankl’s book: Man’s Search for Meaning?
There have been so many before us who did this soul searching… But please, do keep it up as you ARE a great writer. The world needs to hear your thoughts, it is hungry for it in this time and age.
Hugs to you,
Mariette
You’re words are very soothing, Mariette. Thank you for writing, too.
Yes, I read Viktor Frankel’s book, and I found it helpful, but soul-searching is an evolutionary process, so I always find new questions that need to be answered. ❤
I think you are finding your meaning bit by bit — it is a process
Yes, you’re right. I am thick-headed and it takes me a while to figure things out! ❤
you and me both
I agree. Writing is, of course, a drug!
It is to me, too. ❤